Sunday, November 2, 2025

Men and women are different

Switzerland Women’s Team Gets Destroyed By Under 15 Boys. Final score 7-1.


Women cannot compete with men in sports. They can't even compete with boys.

All over the Modern Orthodox and Yeshivish world, the authority and dignity of the man is undermined. Chassidim and Sephardim suffer much less from this problem. But in the Litvish world, the men are undermined, their manhood is taken away. They are not allowed to earn a parnassah until they can only get the worst kind. They are made to feel like losers it they are not giant Talmudic scholars. Their personal autonomy is handed over to a rabbi who doesn't know or care about them. They are told that they are less spiritual than the women (which is false). All problems in the home are blamed on the man. The divorce courts, including the batei dinim, punish the men, and the women even while married, know that they have this advantage. The men are emasculated and the women try to be men. But they can't be men. The Swiss women's national adult team gets smashed by under 15 year old boys. When women try to be men, you get a disaster. But that's what happens when you emasculate the men. 

Rav Hirsch anticipated all of this:

“It is not good that the man should be alone.” The object would be missed or imperfectly attained if only men were to strive for it unaccompanied. The task is too great for one, it requires essentially two human beings who can share the work and carry it through by supplying one another’s deficiencies. “I will provide for him a help meet for him.” כנגדו עזר) cf. אזר,אצר,עזר, עזרה (is that kind of assistance which through taking over a part of the work to be performed allows the other partner to concentrate his attention on the part which is left to him to perform, and so enables him to perform his part properly, thus securing the proper performance of the whole. This
is the essence of the division of labour."

“This will-subordination of the wife to the husband is a necessary condition of the unity which man and wife should form together. The subordination cannot be the other way about, since the man as זכר has to carry forward the divine and
human messages which through every marriage are to be a living force in the household, and to which the husband and wife are in union to devote their forces.” 

R’ Samson Raphael Hirsch, Judaism Eternal, Volume 2 (New York: Soncino, 1976) 

Mikki Willis on his experience with new age culture and philosophy:

"It's also where men also learn to be less masculine because the whole thing is about, you know, that none of that, no force, you know, no strength, just everything is just is Tai Chi through it all, Aikido through it all. And so I tried that for a long time and it wasn't until I had children and then we were trying to teach our children that and I realized these kids are developing a mentality and they're running us. Our children were, you know, four and six and they were running us because they saw dad as soft and because we were trying to do this conscious parenting thing where I remember one time I was at the park in Ohigh and I was watching this little boy pummel his mother in the face sitting on her lap pummel her and she's going, "Okay, I see that you're angry and something must have really ow ow ow ow. Okay, that's hard. It really upset you and you're angry"  and it's like just the whole thing just talk through it all. 

"And it wasn't until one day I just went, you know, I'm gonna scrap all this and I'm gonna do I'm gonna follow my instincts and I'm going to be a man. What the result of it was this. My kids discovered that their dad is not to be messed with. And as a result, they felt safe in a dangerous world. And so they didn't try to pull the same BS on us. They stopped all of that because they also had a sense of respect for the pecking order in our home which I started to really lay into it heavily like you never disrespect your mother. Let's go back to some old-fashioned like all of our history, all of our old ways which have just been deemed as kind of barbaric and archaic and wrong because that's what's led to capitalism and the destruction of everything. I don't know. I think we kind of have thrown the baby out with the bath water with a lot of those practices. So, I just went, I'm just going to go. And thank God my wife was willing to let me go there. And there were a few times when she said, "I don't know if you need to yell like that." No, I'm going to yell because that's what I feel inside. And it turned out to be the right thing to do because, like I said, in the end, my kids, they're balanced. Um they're good kids and they have respect for their elders. They have good old-fashioned respect....

"We're so sensitive that now all these words and terminologies that we've used forever are now being frown frowned upon and you want us to bend everything to make you comfortable so you're not and I realized later I'm like, Oh, this is the feelings over facts crowd. This is where it's starting, like we're shaping  everything in our physical world to make us feel better instead of dealing with the realities of the world and and doing  something about them. And so that's why I say that it was an incubator for the woke movement because it really did a lot of damage to a lot of men who are now stepping out of it. Talking with a lot of my friends that can look back and go, Wow, you know, not only was I a big phony, but it really did some damage to my strength, who I am as a person and my personal strength." 
 



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Saturday, November 1, 2025

Derech Eretz at Amazon

 




Instead of making you feel that you messed up, they put the blame on themselves and show you a photo of a nice dog. 

Derech Eretz

Wednesday, October 22, 2025

Can I do TIDE in Israel?

Sort of, not really. You are thinking a Jewish state will allow me to put my Judaism into full practice in the full dimension of life. Problem is Israel is more a military base than a real country. If it were an independent country it wouldn't have needed $1.6 trillion from the Americans to survive.



The military is mostly what the country is about, that and being anti-religious or superficially religious. There's little derech eretz in terms of good manners. People are far from being German in the good sense of the term, meaning self-disciplined, orderly, and polite. I dealt with a German on the phone the other day, I couldn't get over how organized and polite this man was. It was so refreshing. And he was personable too. Israelis are not like that, not usually.

They have their good points, but derech eretz is not one of them. It's Israel. And you might like it there. But it's not a great place for TIDE. There's are obstacles to everything. They are so overboard on their requirements for certifications, degrees. It's obnoxious, not practical. There are few libraries, very little culture. Any classical music is supplied by Russian immigrants. It's a difficult place, not an orderly, reasonable place. The economy is lame. Mostly it's about the military. Nearly every time you hear of a big business deal in Israel it's selling of weapons systems or spy software. Most other industries are not robust. The best place for TIDE is the American Midwest, Switzerland, and England, due to the Germanic influence. Also the Breuer's community in NY since they follow German Jewish custom and the atmosphere still enjoys the influence of Rav Hirsch and Rav Breuer.

Thursday, October 9, 2025

Minhag Ashkenaz Kenes, Bene Brak, Thursday Oct 9, Mincah 5:50 PM

 Minhag Ashkenaz Kenes, Bene Brak, Thursday Oct 9, Mincah 5:50 PM


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Followed by talk in Hebrew by Rav Hamburger, followed by Maariv, followed by Chazanus.

Also available online via Google Meet