agunah

 "The old-time agunah was a woman who her husband went to war and he got lost in battle. We don't have any witnesses to prove that he's dead. If there are no witnesses to prove that he's dead, she can't get married. That's an agunah. But a self-made agunah who kicks her husband out of the house, that's not called an agunah. There are organizations for sympathy but after all it's their own fault. She has to live together with her husband, suffer a little bit until you housebreak him. When you buy a dog it takes time before you teach him how to be civilized. And sooner or later you get used to each other. You fight and sing together too. And you take your children to the chuppah together eventually. But to make a fuss and break up, that's a very big crime." R' Avigdor Miller